who- a 31 year old that feels like she is in high school all over again [in a good way tho!] chillin in a tank and shorts…
what- love is love- but love YOU first DUMMY!
when- 9:48 am
where- in my bed.
ok so.. these past couple of days, i have been confronted by love in different forms. first- my home girl called me frantic over her man ‘cheating on her’ at a HOtel, THEN- my other homegirl’s man’s phone accidentally called her when he was with some random scallywag-at a HOtel. same kind of situation but let me tell you the difference. and THEN all of the sudden, i seem to be surrounded by love. i see it all around me. it’s amazing. but i digress…
homegirl #1 was devastated. i mean i practically had to talk her off the ledge. i haven’t seen anything like it since juliet saw romeo’s dead body. NOT exaggerating. anywho, i told her that in addition to her EGO, it was the fact that this nigga takes care of her- that had her feeling so SICK. he pays her very high rent, gives her whatever she wants before she even asks for it. meanwhile, she is ‘in between careers’ and hasn’t taken him up on his many offers to help her start her own business.
ok now. what part of that doesn’t ring UNfair, UNbalanced, and DUMB?? i mean HELLO??? of COURSE he is seeing other bitches. your ass ain’t doing a fraction of what you are supposed to be doing!!! shit! he is looking at you as a BILL boo boo. and everybody needs a break from paying bills in the sense that they gotta do something that ISNT costing them 4-5 g’s a month. work with me people!!!!!
please don’t think that you can take take take take and take some more and everything will just be peachy keen. ummm NO booboo… the universe WILL take from the taker. u can’t just be lost in cash flow and shopping trips and think that life is gonna wait for you to get it together. sheesh!!!! she’s a sweetheart but definitely has a long way to go.
homegirl #2 on the other hand didn’t give 2 shits about what her ‘man’ was doing because she was already aware of who he is [a trick] and had accepted it a long time ago. he did nothing for her emotionally, sexually OR spiritually. so- she took it for what it was. when his little bullshit popped up here and there, she was prepared to handle the facts [and nothing but the facts] as they came along. annnnnnd, she made sure not to miss a BEAT on his account.
SO, long story-short, please don’t let somebody turn you into a needy bucket head that doesn’t have 2 pennies to rub together. if you know your man or woman is NOT the one, please stop fighting it, drop the looser IMMEDIATELY from your ‘emotions’ file, and go back to building UPWARDS. ok? ok.
im done now.
yours in zEn.
Anonymous
Comment made on June 29, 2008 @ 1:19 am
PREACH!!!
Sincere
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Comment made on March 18, 2009 @ 3:50 am
hey elbie
long time
im glad to see
so much
positive energy
surrounding you
loving
the new
clean look
of your site
when will the single
be done
h……………………….
dumaka
Comment made on January 26, 2010 @ 1:42 pm
I like this. So true
elbie
Comment made on January 26, 2010 @ 3:07 pm
thank u!!